I personally believe that if you aren’t happy and successful as a single person you will never find happiness in a relationship.
A successful (monogamous) relationship is when two autonomous individuals come together and compliment each other’s lives.
Let's just say that I was sort of a goody two shoes and didn't want to upset my parents. I am now a mother of a 12 year old daughter and a 10 year old son.
Last week the 12 year old asked when she can start dating.
You say “the same mistakes keep happening, irrational, clingy, and losing myself in relationships.” To me, it sounds like you are too focused on having a relationship in your life and not focused on other things like career, friends, and hobbies.
But your child’s age isn’t the biggest factor to consider when deciding whether he’s ready to pursue a romantic relationship. For example, how does he handle his responsibilities? This is important to keep in mind for several reasons: Rather than targeting a specific age for dating, use this precious time to help your child work on his social skills. Talk through examples such as whether to lean in for a kiss now or to wait.
If your child has learning and attention issues, there may be as much as a three-year discrepancy between his chronological age and his social and emotional maturity.
"I think 11 -12 is still too young for that stuff...
I'd say maybe 9th grade might be okay, but am not really sure." How young is too young to allow your child to date?